Let’s file this in the “Signs of the Times” folder. Then let’s toss it in the garbage because it needs to go there.
My sister took me out for dinner Saturday night. We went to a nice restaurant and sat at a little booth.
Shortly after we were seated a woman came in and was seated across from us at a bigger booth and I heard her asking for a booster seat.
Uh oh I thought. This is an adult type restaurant. No kids menus. No coloring books. Here we go again thinking back to the dinner out we had on my birthday. You can read about that here. I will wait until you get back to continue.
Minutes later her husband came in along with their 4 young boys. The oldest appeared to be about 7 or 8 years old. I tensed up.
Turns out there was nothing to worry about with their behaviour. They were really quiet and yet I am still not happy. Why? Not because I am a grumpy old lady but because when I looked over at their quiet table of 6 you could see every one of them was using a handheld device of some sort.
IPhones, gaming consoles whatever. They were not looking at each other. They were not talking to each other. The parents looked up when the server came to their table for something but other than the odd word here or there they completely ignored each other.
Yes they were quiet and didn’t disturb the other patrons but I don’t think this is a solution. I am really saddened. Sharing a meal with your family and not even looking at them is shameful.
These children should be learning how to engage in conversations with adults and each other. They should be learning to look the server in the eye and say thank you when she brings something to the table.
They should be sharing their day, their ideas, their problems. Instead they are staring into a screen and isolating themselves from the world around them.
Also they are not even communicating with their spouse as both of them had their heads buried in their IPhones. This too is teaching their children how to relate to their spouse later on. Ignore them. Pretend they are not there.
It is a sad, sad thing. Step up as a parent or grandparent. Teach these young people how to relate to each other. How to converse. How to enjoy the company of your family at meal time. Also how to behave yourself. Not just for me of course but for the world at large and mainly for the kids.